Shopping Day

Thanks to the fact I have a lovely, and pretty easy going baby, Mum and I were able to take him shopping today!! 

We went to Bounce and Rhyme first and then met Mum for a lift to Hanley as I’m in need of some new shoes for the wedding on Saturday.  Since I’ve not worn heels for so long and my joints are all still feeling rather weak, I couldn’t face the thought of wearing my high gold heels so wanted to find a pair of low kitten heels, in gold and slingbacks.  I don’t know if it’s normal at this point although I’ve read the hormone which makes your pelvis softer in preparation for birth is still in your system for up to six months afterwards so at the moment I’m hobbling around feeling stiff and my ankles need extra support and I’m too scared to carry Joel in heels that I don’t feel safe in.

After a little bit of searching I found a pair in Debenhams which were half price in the sale and exactly what I was looking for.  Hurrah!  I’m hoping the gold shoes and bangles will go with my purple bellamama dress.  All I need now is a big pair of pants to get rid of the VPL and hold my tummy in and I’m sorted!

Joel was so good all day.  We got to the shops about 12.00 noon and went straight to a cafe for a sandwich where I was able to feed him, and then he slept all around the shops, getting lots of comments on his cuteness from old ladies and we were even able to stop off at Trentham Gardens on the way home for Mum to get some presents whilst I fed him in the car and then we lay on the grass so he could enjoy the fresh air and kick his legs about a bit.

Once we were home he was quite shattered and had a very good sleep but that didn’t stop him going out like a light at 7pm after his bath!!  Lets see what time he sleeps until tonight!  Tomorrow we’re going to Leeds for the day so I hope he’s as good again!!  🙂

Tuesday Play Time

Here’s Joel and Trudy together under the baby gym at Mum’s and Toddlers this morning 🙂
How cute are they?!

Forgot to say as well, Joel grabbed a chicken from one of his dangly mobile toy things, and put the chicken’s tail in his mouth!!  Whether it was deliberate or accidental, it impressed me greatly!  He certainly knows where his mouth is as his hand, fingers, thumb or all of the above are pretty much in it all the time at the moment, but to grasp a toy and put that in his mouth?  Well, that’s new!!  🙂

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Sleep Patterns

Last night I was going to bed at 10pm and thought I’d have another go at feeding Joel there and then to see whether it would mean he slept longer through (hopefully till 7am!)

He slept through the feed which meant it was easier to put him back down afterwards and there were no issues there, and to be fair to him, he did sleep until nearly 6.30am this morning, but I didn’t benefit due to the mugginess of the weather as I was awake at 2am and slept rather fitfully.

But, having yesterday attempted to feed lying down, we had another go today and it was lovely.  I got to be dozy and relaxed and he gets to be cosy and nurtured and feeds well that way.  We spent an hour like that this lunchtime and both felt better for it I think.

I’m going to take a photo and post it as I think it’s a lovely thing but I will title it as such so those who may be offended don’t have to see!  Who knew I’d take so well to breastfeeding!?  Certainly not me!

Hot Hot Hot

It’s been about 27 degrees here today which poses all sorts of questions!

What to do with a baby!

Vest or no vest (no vest).

Socks or no socks (no socks).

Time outside or stay inside?  (outside until 11am then inside until 3pm then outside again!)

Stick to feeding routines?  (Just fed on demand and got greeny poop for it which means lots of foremilk has been drunk but I guess that’s a good thing on a hot day)

Then the real poser question – night time – sleep suit, gro bag or vest?

We’ve just put him in a vest tonight to reassess at my bed time of 9.30 as the gro thermometer was indicating red with a sad face, and 25 degrees which is waaaay to hot for what’s recommended for a baby.  I hate the sad face on things as it means baby will not like it.

Anyhow, he woke himself up just, for the first time in ages!  He actually cried!  I was so surprised to hear him through the monitor!  He had another feed to settle himself down, and has gone back to sleep again.  Poor Joel, he’s not been terribly happy in the hot weather, although first thing we had some lovely smiles!  Here’s some pictures from today:

Joel on seeing his Daddy this morning!

Cheeky smiles for Mummy!

Relaxing in the garden.

Trying to keep cool in the shade and catch a breeze.

Whatever You Can Do…

I write this today from an offended perspective. My husband this morning told me he knows better than me how to look after a baby.

I’d like to see him try.

I’ve been doing all night feeds and 7am feeds and this morning Joel was up and awake at 5.30 so up I got with him.

It’d be nice to be told I could have a lie in one day but apparently I have to book these in advance being psychic to know what nights will mean I’m more tired to fit in with HIS work schedule.

This led to a bit of a fight and as I’m so tired today (swaying on my feet) I’ve left Joel in his hands and the poor child is being subjected to guitar playing and singing having been on his Dad’s knee whilst he works on his computer. Steve won’t play with him on his gym mat or anything like that, apparently that’s ‘my way’ not Steve’s way. Never mind what Joel likes to do.

I just wish that Steve would try to engage Joel in what he needs rather than what Steve feels he wants. I’d feel a lot easier leaving him that way. I can hear Joel now being bored as the guitar playing has gone on too long for him and he needs a change. Poor thing, but if I tell Steve this I’m being a nag and ‘butting in’.

I support Steve by dealing with the night feeds and not asking for much in return as I know he’s busy, I just wish he could let me have some time to rest in a morning once in a while without having to worry about Joel’s well being or book the time in advance which frankly is a selfish and demeaning request.

Husbands, who’d have them?

EDIT: – we made friends again not long after we argued and I wrote this post.  I acknowledge I was horribly tired and grotty and he couldn’t cope with my grottiness.  He also was sorry for saying some things and I guess that’s just what having a baby can do for a relationship from time to time.  I’m sure it won’t be the last argument either as I do get very grumpy when tired.

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Mummy Milk!

Look at this! 5oz this morning, expressed and frozen in preparation of a night out next week!

I’m trying to build up a little stock of milk and this morning due to Joel sleeping from 7pm – 5.30am (!) I had over full boobs and expressing was a relief!!

I’ve written on the lid the date of expressing and the expiration date of 3 months in the freezer!  Good old Sharpie pens!  I bet expressed milk pot lids weren’t on the list of what they can write on!  Ha ha!!

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Feeding in Public

I’m not a militant person at all when it comes to breast feeding.  I didn’t feel strongly before that I HAD to do it, and I wasn’t againt formula feeding.  I just thought I’d give it a go, and if it worked for us it’d be more convenient for me, cheaper and have a few more benefits than formula but nothing to stress over if it didn’t work.

Luckily for me we both took to it.  Yes we had some issues getting started but with a little patience we got there in the end and I think we’re both benefitting from it.

So yes, I do now think that breast is best.

But that doens’t mean I’m going to be a Mum who has no issue with flopping boobs out in public like some I’ve seen!!  I’m discreet, and try to feed in places where people won’t be offended.   I wouldn’t eat my own meal in a toilet, so I’m not going to sit in a public loo for 20 minutes to feed my baby, but if I’m in a Mums and Toddlers meeting I’ll feed there, and in the library there’s a quiet sofa in the baby book room, so I’ve fed there on occasion when in town.

And this is my cause for comment today.  After Bounce and Rhyme Joel was hungry so we went and sat on the sofa in the corner, out of the way, and I always wear a vest under a top, so I unhook my nursing bra and pull it and the vest down (the vest then covers my tummy) and I pull the top up so all that is there is the important bit (!) but this is all hidden by baby’s head and once he’s latched on you can’t see a thing. 

Anyway, a grandma was coming in with a pram and there was also a grandad who made a bit of a fuss about me sitting there and the grandma said loudly ‘I said you wouldn’t want to come in’ as though I was causing a big hassle.   I even had a muslin over me so I know nothing could be seen but they were still embarrassed. 

Then it went to the other extreme as a Mum leaving from singing said ‘Respect to You!!  So many mum’s don’t even try it do they?”  and this I found a bit militant as it’s all personal and down to each mum as to what they want to do with regards feeding.  And yes, I would encourage any mum to give it a go as the benefits are wonderful, but I wouldn’t judge Mum’s for not carrying on with it if they couldn’t.

Hmm, anyway, that is my thought for the day.  It’s time for ‘The Apprentice’ now and then bed for me!

Jabs :(

Yesterday morning we went along to Mum’s and Toddlers at church and there were four babies there which was nice!!  My friend Elizabeth brought her daughter Trudy along and another lady brought her son Louis (our three were born on the 14th, 16th and 20th April!!)  The other baby was four months old and slept throughout the morning!

We then walked along to town straight afterwards to see the doctor at 2.00pm who wiggled Joel’s hips and spine, did a startle reflex test which we didn’t like as it involved him feeling ‘dropped’ and hearing and sight reflexes which are all perfect.

Then it was time for the jabs, so we went to see the nurse and I decided to soothe him straight afterwards on the breast (another great reason to keep breastfeeding, instant calm!) and it was horrid.  He didn’t like the first injection, and began to wail, the proper, hold your breath, turn purple and loud, loud screams, and he’d just calmed down when the second one was done, and the shock in his little face that it was happening again was dreadful, but then I was able to swiftly turn him over and latch him on, and his tears were dripping onto my breast but he quickly calmed down and was smiling and chuckling at the nurse by the time we left the office.

We then went along to the Health Visitor and he was weighed at 12lbs and 3oz which was another great weight gain!  Especially for breast feeding so I’m very chuffed with him.  He was brilliant.

We walked along home again and got in about 3.00pm and I was quite exhausted from the miles walked but felt much better for the exercise and he was lovely all afternoon and early evening until the effects of the jabs seemed to come over him and he began to grizzle.  He’d had a great feed, then his bath and he began to grizzle.

Going up to bed didn’t calm him as normal, and we decided to give him a dose of the paracetamol that had been prescribed by the doctor to try and help him sleep off the effects.  He then kept intermittently screaming, grizzling and laughing at the crochet blanket on the back of our rocking chair!

Anyhow, he did go off to sleep and didn’t wake until 2.30 for a feed and then slept right on through till 7.15 this morning!! 

I’m so proud of him, he’s such a wonderfully content and good natured baby.